Some related websites
• Spatula Ministries
• Teen Challenge USA
• Crosswalks

An excellent site for teens to visit when they are dealing with issues is Teen Hopeline

A list of books that are useful
	Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent-and you may find yourself in this book. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency-charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, and Playing It by Heart. More details Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself By Melody Beattie Published by Hazelden, 1987 ISBN 0894864025, 9780894864025 264 pages
	Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves. More details Boundaries: When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Take Control of Your Life By Henry Cloud, John Townsend Published by Zondervan, 1992 ISBN 0310585902, 9780310585909 304 pages
	Helping Your Teen Be Responsible and ResponsiveThe teen years can be challenging and even scary for parents and those involved with youth. Attitudes and behaviors of the adolescent can be unhealthy for him and for the family. However, good boundaries are the bedrock of not only better relationships, but also maturity, safety, and growth-especially for teens and their parents. In order to help teenagers grow into healthy adults, parents and youth workers need to help them experience how to take responsibility for their behavior, their values, and their lives.Dr. John Townsend, coauthor of the Gold Medallion Award-winning book Boundaries, is a parent of two teenagers himself. With wisdom and empathy, he applies his biblically based principles to bear on the challenging task of the teen years, showing parents:- How to deal with disrespectful attitudes and irresponsible behaviors in your teen- How to set healthy limits and realistic consequences- How to be loving and caring while establishing rules- How to determine specific strategies to deal with problems both big and smallThe book begins by giving parents a way to look at adolescence itself, so they can better understand how a teen thinks, feels, and relates to others. Then it provides the nuts and bolts of what boundaries are all about and how to apply them. There are many topically based chapters devoted to specific problems, from moodiness to school problems to aggression. Finally, Townsend addresses the attitudes, conflicts, and difficulties of parents themselves, helping them resolve their own personal obstacles to being an effective maturing force for the teen.Also available on unabridged audio CD, read by the author. More details Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, how to Say No By John Sims Townsend Published by Zondervan, 2006 ISBN 0310259576, 9780310259572 284 pages
	You want your kids to grow up into healthy adults. You want to see them take responsibility for their behavior, their values, their lives. But maybe you've discovered that simply telling them to "do the right thing" isn't enough. From toddler tantrums to teenage temptations, you've got to help them take ownership of their behavior, feelings, and attitudes. But how? More details Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, when to Say No to Help Your Children Gain Control of Their Lives By Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend, Lisa Guest Published by Zondervan, 1998 ISBN 0310200350, 9780310200352 223 pages
	For every bewildered parent, there’s a kid longing to be understood. What parent hasn’t occasionally looked at their beloved but bewildering offspring and wondered, What in the world is he thinking? or Why is my sweet little girl acting like that? In this remarkable book, Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice take you inside the mind of teens and preteens through the same innovative approach that seized national attention in the best-selling books For Women Only, For Men Only, and For Young Women Only. They explore the results of a nationwide survey and personal interviews with more than 1,000 real-life teens and tweens to tackle those things parents often don’t “get” about their kids. You’ll hear first-hand about the longings that drive your kids’ seemingly illogical decisions, the truth behind those exasperating “attitude problems,” and what your children would tell you if they could trust you to truly listen. More details For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid By Shaunti Feldhahn, Shaunti Christine Feldhahn, Lisa A. Rice Published by Multnomah Pub, 2007 ISBN 1590529324, 9781590529324 183 pages